The ABDLCircle Community

A little bit cozy cuddle den, a little bit support hub, a little bit nerd cave. Here’s how the community is stitched together.

Soft-Space, Not “Anything Goes”

“Soft-space” means we expect people to be messy humans — meltdowns, shutdowns, regressy giggles, awkward social moments — but we also have boundaries and staff structure so that vulnerable members aren’t crushed in the chaos.

  • Emotional safety is prioritized over maximal freedom to say anything.
  • Repair, check-ins, and “hey, that landed rough” chats are normal.
  • You’re allowed to have needs, not just vibes.

Channel Types & Flavors

Different channels have different expectations so people can pick what feels safe:

  • Soft-space channels – meltdown-friendly, slower pace, more gentle nudges.
  • ABDL / regression chats – play, diapers, gear, headspace talk, and cuddly chaos.
  • Hangout spaces – games, art, music, tech, and everyday life rambling.
  • Support-flavored channels – venting, decompression, “I just need someone to witness this.”

Channel topics and pins usually explain the expectations in more detail.

Roles, Identities & Consent

We use roles to help people quickly signal who they are and how they want to be approached:

  • Pronoun roles and identity flags to avoid constant “reminding.”
  • ABDL / regression flavor roles (little, middle, caregiver, switch, etc.).
  • DM preference roles, so you don’t have to justify “no DMs” every time.

Roles are invitations, not obligations. You’re allowed to change your mind, downgrade, or remove everything and just be “a guy in pajamas.”

Staff, Tickets & Support Culture

Staff are expected to model the culture we want: slow, kind, firm when needed. Tools like pacify, mutes, and tickets exist to protect people, not to power-trip.

  • Tickets are private and used for concerns, questions, and safety issues.
  • Moderation actions should come with explanations and a repair path when possible.
  • We try to assume good faith while still holding clear boundaries.

If you’ve had bad experiences with staff in other communities, you’re not alone. You’re allowed to be wary here too — we’ll do our best to earn your trust slowly.