What is ABDL?

This is a fiercely debated topic among those within the communities and among those who become aware of it one way or another. There is no simple answer to the question, as each of us has their own unique view of what it means to us, and our experiences and reasons for engaging in these practices varies widely.

Basic Definitions

ABDL stands for Adult Baby, and Diaper Lover. Adult babies regress themselves into a child or infant state, either alone or with the help of a partner. Diaper lovers enjoy wearing diapers or seeing a partner wear them.

Medical and Misconceptions

One clinical term used is ‘paraphilic infantilism’, though it is often inaccurate. Not all ABDLs find this sexual; many are asexual while regressed. This is not pedophilia, and the community strongly condemns such associations.

Diaper Lovers (DLs)

Diaper lovers may find diapers comforting or part of a fetish. For many, it offers mental stability, comfort, and relaxation.

Adult Babies (ABs)

Adult Babies often engage in a full-time or lifestyle-level regression into ‘little space’. It’s about peace, joy, and detachment from adult stressors. Diapers, pacifiers, baby clothes, and toys are often part of the experience.

Adult Babies vs Diaper Lovers — What’s the Difference?

ABDL is a broad umbrella that includes many experiences, but two of the most common terms are Adult Baby (AB) and Diaper Lover (DL).

Adult Babies (ABs) often enjoy roleplaying or regressing into a younger mindset or “little space.” This might include using pacifiers, wearing onesies, cuddling plush toys, using bottles or sippy cups, and engaging in comforting, nurturing behavior. It’s usually more emotional and nurturing in nature.

Diaper Lovers (DLs) are generally interested in the use or wearing of diapers, often without the roleplay or regression aspects. This can be for comfort, stress relief, curiosity, or personal enjoyment.

Many people identify as one or the other, while others relate to both and call themselves ABDL. There's no one right way to be a part of this community — everyone’s experience is personal and valid.