Frequently Asked Questions
The “wait, how does this work?” page. If your question isn’t answered here, you can always open a support ticket.
Yes. ABDLCircle is strictly 18+ only. We remove minors and people
who admit to being under 18, even if they have “parent permission.”
We use a combination of join questions, tickets, and staff judgment. In some cases
staff may ask clarifying questions or request additional confirmation before allowing
access to certain spaces. We try to keep this as light and trauma-aware as possible.
We use reaction or button panels in the server to assign roles. Look for the
roles or welcome channels, where you can pick
pronouns, ABDL flavor, and DM preferences. Staff may also help adjust these in tickets.
Soft-space channels are places for meltdowns, ugly crying, emergency cuddles,
and “I can’t cope right now.” They use tighter boundaries and slower pacing so
people can fall apart a little without being judged.
Use tickets for anything that needs privacy, nuance, or a staff decision:
harassment, boundary issues, confusion about rules, or “I’m worried about what just happened.”
If you’re not sure whether something is “ticket worthy”, it probably is.
Staff are expected to be firm but gentle. The goal is to keep
the community safe, not to humiliate members. You might see timeouts, pacifies,
or boundaries, but they should come with explanations and chances to repair.
No. ABDLCircle is a peer community. Staff can listen, redirect, and support,
but we are not mental health professionals and cannot replace emergency services.
If you're in immediate danger, please contact local emergency services or a crisis line.
Still stuck or anxious about something? Reach out to staff and we’ll walk through it with you.