Welcome to ABDLCircle

1 Read the Rules & Safety Notes

Before anything else, please skim our Rules & Safety page. It explains our 18+ policy, consent expectations, ABDL boundaries, and what happens if something goes wrong.

You don’t have to memorize every detail, but you should know the basics: no minors, no harassment, respect boundaries, and listen when staff ask you to pause or move a topic.

2 Complete Verification / Newcomer Steps

When you first join the Discord server, you’ll see a few channels guiding you through your newcomer steps. Depending on how we have things set up at the moment, that may include:

• Reacting to a basic acknowledgement of the rules and age policy.
• Opening a newcomer support ticket so staff can welcome you and check in.
• Confirming that you are 18+ and understand our safety boundaries.

Staff may ask simple questions (pronouns, where you found us, what you’re looking for) to make sure you are a good fit for the space. You don’t need to share your full life story.

3 Pick Your Roles & Comfort Levels

ABDLCircle uses role menus to help you quickly communicate who you are and what you’re okay with. Exact menus may change, but they usually cover things like:

• Pronouns & gender – how you want people to refer to you.
• ABDL & regression roles – little, middle, DL, caregiver, switch, “just here for vibes,” etc.
• Friend / social roles – whether you’re open to meeting new people, staying low-key, etc.
• DM comfort roles – DMs open, ask first, or DMs closed.
• Content toggles – pings, announcements, game nights, and similar.

If you’re not sure which roles fit, you can always start small and adjust later. Staff can help if something feels confusing.

4 Find Your Soft-Space Channels

The server has different “zones” for different needs. Some common examples:

• Soft-space / meltdown corners – for emotional spirals, meltdown support, and “I’m not okay but I don’t want to be judged.”
• ABDL & regression chats – focused on diapers, little gear, routines, headspace, and caregivers.
• General hangouts – games, memes, crafts, pets, and everyday life.
• Support-flavored channels – lighter venting, check-ins, and coping talk that doesn’t go into graphic crisis detail.

Channel topics and pinned messages usually explain what belongs where. If you’re ever unsure, you can ask in the channel or quietly open a ticket.

5 When & How to Contact Staff

Support tickets are private threads between you and staff. They are used for:

• Reporting harassment, boundary issues, or safety concerns.
• Asking questions about rules, roles, or how a feature works.
• Letting staff know if a situation is starting to feel unsafe or overwhelming.

Staff are volunteers, but they take your wellbeing seriously. They may not always be able to respond instantly, and they can’t replace professional support, but they will do their best to listen and help.

For a deeper dive into what this space is and isn’t, see the What Is ABDL? and About pages.